While I was offshore earning for my family, she was building a different life.

I’m 38, and for the last ten years I’ve worked offshore. Three months at sea, a few weeks at home, then right back out. The job is brutal. Long shifts. Unpredictable weather. Steel, salt, and exhaustion. But it pays well, about twelve thousand a month.

I kept telling myself it was worth it.

My wife and I have two daughters, Emma, nine, and Lily, six. Every time I board the helicopter out to the rig, their faces are the last thing I see. Every time I come back, they’re a little taller.

After the mortgage, bills, college savings, and investments, I sent my wife an extra eight thousand every month. Not because she demanded it. Because I wanted her comfortable. I told her again and again,

“Hire a cleaner. Order takeout. Go to the spa. Take time for yourself. I don’t want you struggling while I’m gone.”

I never questioned a single charge. If she wanted something, she got it. I trusted her completely.

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But over the past year, the requests started growing.

At first it was spa weekends with her friends. Then a girls’ trip to Miami. I didn’t love it, but I swallowed the feeling and said yes. I told myself she deserved it. Being home with two kids alone wasn’t easy.

Then one night she called while I was on the rig.

“I’ve been invited on a yacht trip,” she said like it was nothing. “Honestly, for all I do while you’re alone having fun at sea, I think I’ve earned it.”

That one landed differently. Fun at sea? I sleep in a metal bunk while machines rattle the walls.

Still, I paid.

I even dipped into savings to cover it. I felt guilty for hesitating. Maybe I wasn’t appreciating her enough. Maybe I didn’t understand how lonely she was.

Three weeks ago, I managed to swap rotations and fly home early. I wanted it to be a surprise. I pictured Emma sprinting into my arms. Lily squealing. My wife smiling when she saw the flowers.

I unlocked the front door quietly.

The smell hit first.

Rotting garbage.

It was thick and sour, clinging to the air. Dirty dishes overflowed in the sink. Flies hovered near the kitchen window. Trash bags were stacked against the wall like they’d been there for days. Maybe weeks.

My stomach tightened.

For a moment I thought something horrible had happened. That she’d gotten sick. That there was an emergency.

Then I noticed the empty wine bottles on the counter. More in the recycling bin. Clothes tossed over chairs, and some of them weren’t hers. Definitely not mine.

On the kitchen island, a city notice sat in plain view. Noise complaint. Fine due in ten days.

My daughters weren’t anywhere.

Panic started crawling up my spine.

Then I heard her voice.

From the backyard.

She was laughing.

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I moved closer to the sliding door and froze when I heard her say,

“He has no clue. He just sends the money and never asks questions. I told you, this is the life.”

My ears rang.

For a second I couldn’t breathe. I stood there holding the gifts I’d brought, feeling like the floor shifted under me.

I stepped outside.

She turned, and the color drained from her face.

“You’re home,” she said, thin and shaky.

“Where are the girls?” was all I could manage.

She stammered something about them being “with her mom.” I didn’t argue. I got back in my truck and drove straight to my mother in law’s house.

She opened the door, surprised.

“Oh,” she said carefully. “You’re back early.”

“Where are my daughters?”

“In the living room,” she replied. “They’ve been staying here… like usual.”

Like usual.

My heart dropped again.

“Like usual?” I repeated.

She hesitated, then said, “Your wife drops them off most weekends. Sometimes during the week if she’s busy.”

Busy.

I walked into the living room and my girls ran to me. That part almost broke me. They smelled like lavender detergent and safety. Emma told me about a math test. Lily shoved a drawing into my hands.

Neither one talked like they’d been missing home.

That terrified me more than anything.

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When I went back to the house that evening, I confronted my wife. I tried to stay calm.

“How long have the girls been staying with your mom?”

She burst into tears. Said I abandoned her. Said three months alone was too much. Said she needed an outlet. Said I didn’t understand the pressure.

“I’m working to give you everything,” I said quietly.

“And I never asked you to,” she snapped. “You chose this job.”

That cut deep.

I chose it for us.

For stability. For opportunity. For our daughters’ future.

That night I cut off the extra money. I moved our accounts into one that requires both signatures for large withdrawals. I brought the girls home with me during my off weeks and set up a trusted nanny for when I go back offshore.

Now my wife says I’m overreacting. That it was “just stress.” That I’m punishing her.

But every time I close my eyes, I hear her voice in the backyard.

“He has no clue.”

I don’t know what hurts more, the money, the lies, or realizing my daughters weren’t even living in their own home half the time.

I’m stuck between trying therapy and walking away.

Part of me still loves her.

Another part feels like I’ve been financing a life I was never invited into.

I don’t know what to think anymore.